Limiting Beliefs and Why They’re Holding You Back

What are Limiting beliefs? To put it simply, they are those negative things that we say to ourselves when we’re feeling afraid, down or frustrated. They are self-imposed, negative thoughts and perceptions that we hold about ourselves or others. They are often formed early in life and can be influenced by our upbringing, our experiences or the people around us.
Unfortunately these beliefs can become ingrained in our subconscious mind and can shape our behaviors, decisions and self image. Let’s be honest, girls. These need to stop. Okay, what do they sound like?

Here are a few good ones that I used to say to myself:
“I’m not good enough. I suck at this.”
“Why does this always happen to me?”
“I will never find someone who loves me as much as I love them.”
And my personal favorite, “Everyone else seems to have it all together but me”

So here’s the deal. These limiting beliefs act as a lens through which we perceive the world. They distort our reality and create self-fulfilling prophecies.
What does that really mean?

It means that these thoughts will sabotage our opportunity for happiness. Yes, these innocent sayings are holding us back! These little buggers will help us settle for less than we actually deserve. Don’t we all really want to get what we deserve?

If the answer is yes, keep reading.

Okay, glad you’re still here. How do we overcome limiting beliefs? Well first it requires self-awareness, determination and a willingness to change our thought patterns.

Here are some steps to break free:
1. Identify your limiting beliefs. First off, take some time for introspection (yes, time to look within yourself again) and identify the beliefs that are holding you back. Be honest with yourself. And then recognize how these beliefs have influenced your decisions and actions.
2. Question their validity. Challenge these little nasty thought patterns. Ask yourself if there is enough concrete evidence to support them. Are they actually dirty little lies? Yes, they probably are. You will find that they lack solid foundations of truth.  I love that sentence – read it again.
3. Reframe your thoughts. Replace those sentences and thoughts with empowering beliefs. It’s really simple. If you believe that you are not good enough, remind yourself of your accomplishments. Create an Atta Girl folder (more on that later). Every time you do something you’re proud of, put it in the notes on your phone. Look back at it.  Important note: Repetition is key to internalizing these new positive beliefs.  Got it?  Don’t give up.  The new, kinder thoughts will come but you need to practice.
4. Small Steps and Kindness: Like with anything new, start with small steps. Gradually challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone and take small steps that align with your new empowering beliefs. Then….. celebrate every one of your achievements, no matter how small. Oh – and be kind to yourself.

Kindness to yourself first.

linda smiling<br />

Written by Linda Martindale

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